What if the ache you feel isn't a problem to fix—but a soul asking to be tended?
As a therapist early on –
I noticed a pattern. Many of my clients were deeply responsible, empathetic, and kind. They knew how to care for everyone else—but not themselves. Those strengths, left untended, created real pain. People struggled to set boundaries, speak honestly, or stay connected to themselves in relationships. And I could see the same patterns in my own life.
I began to explore what Scripture reveals about the soul—
about tending to your inner world, setting boundaries, and learning to love others without losing yourself. As I integrated spiritual wisdom with tools from psychology, a new framework began to take shape: one that made space for love without self-erasure.
That work became Boundaries for Your Soul, then The Best of You, then I Shouldn't Feel This Way—each one going deeper into what it means to tend to your soul. Together, they've sold over 150,000 copies. And The Best of You Podcast and The Best of You Every Day have become a daily space for soul tending that consistently ranks among the top in its category.
I'd love to help you tend to your soul.
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My journey included degrees in history (Dartmouth College), counseling (Denver Seminary), and a joint degree in religion and psychology (University of Denver) where my doctoral dissertation explored the connection between religion and prejudice. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and trained in Internal Family Systems Therapy. Along the way, I met my husband, Joe, and raised our two young adult children. We continue to enjoy beautiful communities in both Boston and Wyoming.
My mission is to help people tend to their souls—so they can feel secure, known, and fully alive in their relationships, their faith, and their own skin.
I believe spiritual wisdom and psychological insight are meant to work together.
That's the foundation of everything I do—helping you tend to your soul in ways that honor both your faith and your full humanity.
Curiosity
As we stay curious about our own beliefs, feelings, and motivations we grow in compassionate self-awareness. Developing a practice of curiosity toward yourself and others is the best way to release the shame, judgment, and false-guilt we all encounter.
Boundaries
I believe boundaries are crucial for healthy relationships with self and others. Identifying and communicating boundaries empowers you to live with integrity, purpose, and conviction. Boundaries honor individual autonomy and the need for connection.
Healing
While rooted in a Christian faith tradition, I prioritize healing over dogma. I believe healing is the heart of God’s desire for every person. I emphasize emotional, spiritual, and relational healing, and acknowledge the need for systemic healing.
Integration
We are mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual beings. Bringing together each part of our experience is necessary to become a whole, integrated person. I believe integrated individuals create integrated relationships, communities, and societies.
Your soul is worth tending.
