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Posts
- Episode 81: Finding God Through Your Feelings—How to Practice the Presence of God No Matter What You’re Feeling
- Episode 80: Navigating Overwhelming Emotions—2 Essential Steps to Bring Calm to the Chaos Within
- Episode 79: Surviving Trauma & A Path to Forgiveness—Finding God In the Hardest Parts of Your Story With Esau McCaulley
- Episode 78: The Mental Health Benefits of Forgiveness & Thoughts on Grace with Max Lucado
- Episode 77: The Dark Night of the Soul—Why It Happens & What It Means
- Episode 76: When Self-Help Isn’t Enough—Finding the Faith & Strength to Move Forward after Loss & Heartache With Granger Smith
- Episode 75: Your Secret Weapon Against Stress & Anxiety—How to Transform Your Mind Through the Power of Prayer
- Episode 74: The Neurobiology of Hope and How to Find Hope in Hard Times with Dr. Curt Thompson
- Episode 73: True Belonging vs. Groupthink, Cliques, & Trying to Fit In—How to Belong to Others While Staying True To Yourself
- Episode 72: Resilience—Overcoming Failure, Handling Adversity, and Telling Yourself the Truth
- Episode 71: All About Therapy—Do I Need a Therapist, How Do I Find One, and What Type of Therapy Works Best?
- Episode 70: Mastering the Art of Emotional Intelligence—How to Harness the Power of Your Emotions to Improve Your Relationships
- Episode 69: Your Future Self—8 Challenges to Resolve As You Become the Person You Were Meant to Be
- Episode 68: How *Not* to Lose Yourself—Remaining You While Raising Them with Alli Worthington
- Episode 67: The Inextricable Link Between Faith & Emotional Healing—Gen Z & A Hidden Search for Meaning
- Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff
- Episode 65: Vulnerability, Parenting, and Letting Go of Control—Inside A Guy’s Perspective With Our Friends From Dadville
- Episode 64: Women’s Health—Menopause, Hormones, Depression and How to Advocate for Yourself Through Your Body’s Changes
- Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others
- Episode 62: Your Questions About Friendship—How to Test a New Relationship, Manage Your Capacity Through Different Life Seasons, & Become a Friend to Yourself
- Episode 61: Reconnecting With Old Friends—Healing the Past, Naming Regret & Bringing Your Whole Self into the Future
- Episode 60: How to Make New Friends, Identify Red and Green Flags, & Extract Yourself From an Unhealthy Situation with Aundi Kolber & Dr. Monique Gadson
- Episode 59: Overcoming Past Hurt & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen
- Episode 58: Friends on Friendship—How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney
- Episode 57: Should I Turn the Other Cheek? Why It’s the Opposite of Being a Doormat & How to Stand Firm in the Face of Gaslighting, Manipulation, and Toxicity
- Episode 56: Am I Really Supposed to Die to Myself? Misconstrued Messages and How to Disentangle From Them
- Episode 55: Am I Supposed to Distrust Myself? Why Trusting Yourself is Necessary to Establishing Healthy Relationships With Other People
- Episode 54: Can I Pray My Anxiety Away? A Surprising Approach to the Anxiety Pandemic & How to Walk Yourself & Your Kids Through It
- Episode 53: StrengthsFinder—How to Claim Your Strengths, Lean On Others & Thrive at Home and Work
- Episode 52: The Enneagram—9 Ways to Uncover the Best (and Worst) of Who You Are, Get Honest With Yourself, & Improve Your Relationships
- Episode 51: The 12 Common Thinking Traps, Mind Reading, Mental Filters, and How To Stop Taking Things Personally
- Episode 50: 9 Types of Intelligence, the Trap of Comparison, and 9 Ways to Connect with God
- Episode 49: Personality, the Big Five Traits, and Why Are We So Obsessed With Personality Types?
- Episode 48: Loving Your Body as a Spiritual Practice, Why the Flesh Isn’t the Body, and 3 Heresies We Kind of Believe
- Episode 47: Spiritual Bypassing vs. Embodied Faith & How Not to Harm Those Who Are Hurting, Including Yourself
- Episode 46: People Pleasing as Survival, How Jesus Regulated Emotions & the Problem With Toxic Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing with Aundi Kolber
- Episode 45: Strong like Water—Finding the Freedom, Safety, & Compassion to Move through Hard Things & Experience True Flourishing with Aundi Kolber
- Episode 44: Why Anger is a Surprising Friend, What Happens When You Avoid It, and How to Create Space for Healthy Expression of Anger in Your Family
- Episode 43: How to Tame Your Inner Critic, Why All Parts are Welcome, and How to Resolve Conflict in Your Relationships
- Episode 42: How to Honor Sadness, Set Boundaries with Loneliness, and What to Do When You Don’t Have Time for this Work
- Episode 41: Boundaries With Fear And Anxiety—How to Calm the Chaos Within and the Joy of Internal Boundaries
- Episode 40: 5 Steps to Healing Painful Emotions & Why Parts of Us Get Stuck in the Past
- Episode 39: Boundaries for Your Soul—How to Navigate Your Overwhelming Thoughts & Feelings
- Episode 38: Taking a Risk on God—How to Stay Standing with Alli Patterson
- Episode 37: The Problem With Toxic Thinking & How to Name, Tame, and Transform the Messages You Tell Yourself
- Episode 36: An Update on My Social Media Detox & How to Create Boundaries With Toxic Distractions, Numbing, & Unhealthy Coping Tactics
- Episode 35: Change is Hard: Why We All Need to Detox From Unhealthy Dependencies From Time to Time
- Episode 34: Why We Avoid Our Own Power & How God Calls Us to Step Into It
- Episode 33: People Pleasing & Developing Your Own Inner Compass: Thoughts on Depression, Mental Health & the Church, and Finding Hope in Dark Places
- Episode 32: Productivity and the Never Ending To Do List: How to Stop Hustling & Embrace the Joy of Enough
- Episode 31: Peace-Keeping, Anger Avoidance, and How to Start Using Your Voice
- Episode 30: Protecting What’s Good Without Denying What’s Hard at the Holidays
- Episode 29: Perfectionism and Proving Your Worth: How to Stop Chasing Approval and Start Living the Life You Actually Want
- Episode 28: The Pain of Performing For Others and How to Claw Your Way Out with Toni Collier
- Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections
- Episode 26: Types of “No” Part 2—How to Say “No” to Toxicity, The Real Meaning of Turn the Other Check & How to Form a Boundaries Committee
- Episode 25: Types of No Part 1—How to Say “No” in Healthy Relationships
- Episode 24: Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, and a Note About Evil
- Episode 23: Am I wounded or am I sinful?
- Episode 22: How to Build Trust with Yourself
- Episode 21: Making and Keeping A Promise to Yourself
- Episode 20: Making Peace with Yourself (& Facing Your Fear of Disappointing Other People)
- Episode 19: My Stroke, A Process of Healing, and How I Began to Write The Best of You
- Episode 18: Selfhood vs. Selfishness
- Episode 17: What is Church Hurt and How do I Heal?
- Episode 16: What are attachment styles and why does it matter?
- Episode 15: CPTSD—The Pain of A Million Paper Cuts
- Episode 14: The Fawn Response & The Hidden Root of People Pleasing
- Episode 13: Dr. Alison Answers Your Questions: Criticism, Narcissism, and Boundaries
- Episode 12: Overcoming the Pain of Divorce
- Episode 11: How to Start Loving Your Body
- Episode 10: What are limiting beliefs and how do I overcome them?
- Episode 9: Hidden Pain and the Power of Facing Your Fear
- Episode 8: Overcoming Addiction and Learning to Ask for Help
- Episode 7: Why are boundaries so hard to set?
- Episode 6: Do I Really Have an Inner Child? What It Means to Reparent Yourself
- Episode 5: What is codependency and why does it matter
- Episode 4: What Do I Need To Know About Trauma?
- Episode 3: What Is Self-Love And Should I Really Love Myself?
- Episode 2: What Should I Know About Gaslighting?
- Episode 1: What Is Narcissism Really?
- Spiritual Wounds and How to Heal
- What are the Effects of Trauma?
- Calming Anxiety
- How to Reclaim Your Inner Alert System
- The Empathy Trap
- Can a Boundary Become Unhealthy?
- The Most Important Choice You Make Each Day
- Should I Become Less?
- Will Setting Boundaries Make Me Cruel?
- What to Do With Loneliness
- The Secret to Setting Boundaries
- The Hidden Root of Toxic Behavior
- Is it Wrong to Focus on Myself?
- Why Doesn’t God Just Fix It?
- What are Self-Sabotaging Messages and How Can You Spot Them?
- Gaslighting and the Bible: How to Respond When Someone is Manipulating You
- Guest Post | Dorothy Littell Greco
- How do I get my spouse to change?
- Loving Your Inner Enemies
- How to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Showing Up for Yourself
- When you lose yourself in love
- Why are relationships so hard?
- The Surprising Benefits of an Emotional Hijack
- Gaslighting and The Importance of a Good B.S. Detector
- Does God want me to stay small?
- Why do I feel invisible in my relationships?
- Can I pray negative thoughts away?
- What is Healthy Faith vs. Spiritual Bypassing?
- Am I a Bad Person if I Say “No” and Hurt Someone?
- Am I Supposed to Let My Kids Walk All Over Me?
- Are You Supposed to Meet Your Mother’s Needs?
- How Do I Find Safe Relationships?
- The Most Important Gift
- The Sacred Work of Saying “Yes” to Yourself
- Should I Turn the Other Cheek?
- The Benefits of Self Awareness: A Tool Every Couple Needs
- How to Get Over Your Fear of Disappointing Others
- Are You Supposed to Distrust Yourself?
- Are You Really Supposed to Die to Yourself?
- How to Get More Confidence From the Inside Out
- Examples of Shame and 4 Strategies to Fight It
- How to Deal with Envy: An Exercise in Curiosity
- Types of Loneliness and the Importance of Facing It
- How to Deal with Grief Using 2 Helpful Guidelines
- Overcoming Guilt: 3 Ways to Live Guilt Free
- Fear in the Bible and 4 Ways to Address It
- The Danger of Being a People Pleaser
- An Emotional Healing Process Everyone Should Know
- Church Hurt and 4 Steps for Healing
- How to Control Anger Outbursts in 5 Steps
- 3 Signs of Bad Church Leadership
- The Effects of Toxic Parenting and 5 Steps to Healing
- The Enmeshed Family and 6 Signs of Toxic Behavior
- Setting Boundaries with Friends
- Healthy Boundaries in Marriage and How to Tell the Difference
- Ask Alison: Is Setting Boundaries Selfish?
- Ask Alison: How do I set boundaries in close quarters with others?
- How to Forgive and Move On in a Relationship
- Ask Alison: How do I find new friends when I say “No” to unhealthy friendships?
- How to Strengthen Your Love
- Healing Toxic Self Condemnation
- What Every Woman Needs to Know about Boundaries
- A Roadmap to You
- The Most Important Boundary You Must Set
- 3 Hacks to Feel Better Fast
- The Surprising Key to Healthy Relationships
- What to do when you’re angry with yourself
- The hidden reason why negative emotions are helpful
- Why self-care is the opposite of selfishness
- The danger of bypassing your emotions
- The risk of asking for help and how to do it wisely
- 7 Ways to Increase Your Support Network and Why it Matters
- How to forgive when no one’s asking for it
- 3 parenting styles that impact your emotional and spiritual health
- Boundaries with Mom and Why It Matters
- Why healthy distance is so important in relationships
- Boundaries can help heal a heartache
- Why you should pay attention to guilt
- How to make friends with your fear
- 4 steps to befriending your anger
- Alison Cook on Fun Therapy with Mike Foster
- When self-doubt battles with desire
- The importance of play
- What if loneliness was a gift?
- 7 vulnerable feelings that surface when you stop numbing
- A note to all our numbing pain avoiders
- Losing it with your loved ones? Try these 2 things.
- 4 steps to turn your daydreaming into reality making
- When you or someone you love is self-destructing
- 4 questions to ask when it comes to setting boundaries with your phone
- Boundaries with a numbing entertainment junkie
- When you’re eating to numb, find the part of your soul in need of your care
- 7 common numbing behaviors that keep you from wholeness
- Guest Post | Leslie Vernick
- A simple tool for creating authentic connection
- When you need a rest from your inner task manager
- 4 tips for overcoming perfectionism
- When your shaming inner critic meets gentleness
- Guest Post at AnnVoskamp.com
- How to calm your worry
- 4 ways to shift from overthinking to courageous risk-taking
- Controlling others or confident leadership?
- The 5 signs that your desire to please others has become extreme
- The 7 most common protectors that keep you from connection with others
- How to Replenish Your Emotional Bank Account
- How to Identify a Part of Your Soul in Need
- You can thrive in summer, even when your schedule is falling apart
- When you want to bring peace to others
- Taking a You-Turn with Your Emotions
- Guest Post | Kimberly Miller
- How to Regain Connection to God, Others, and Yourself
- An Interview with Bible Gateway
- 3 Steps to Heal Painful Emotions
- Cultivating Healthy Distance in Relationships