Posts by Alison Cook

Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections

By Alison Cook | November 3, 2022

We’re kicking off a new series on The Best of You Podcast as we move into the last 2 months of the year. How do you shift from managing the perceptions of others to showing up more authentically? In today’s episode, I cover the 7 ways we tend to manage perceptions and why it doesn’t...

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Episode 26: Types of “No” Part 2—How to Say “No” to Toxicity, The Real Meaning of Turn the Other Check & How to Form a Boundaries Committee

By Alison Cook | October 27, 2022

This week on The Best of You podcast, we’re getting into how to say No to toxic behaviors-including practical strategies, scripts, and misconstrued bible passages. There’s no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. A strategy that might work in a healthy relationship won’t work with toxicity. It’s important to understand the...

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Episode 25: Types of No Part 1—How to Say “No” in Healthy Relationships

By Alison Cook | October 20, 2022

This week and next week on The Best of You podcast, we’re getting into 3 types of “No”-including practical strategies, and scripts, for how to say No in different situations. First up is how to say no in healthy relationships. This episode is for you if you struggle to set a boundary, state a preference,...

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Episode 24: Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, and a Note About Evil

By Alison Cook | October 13, 2022

Today on The Best of You podcast, we’re diving into how to discern toxic vs. healthy patterns of behavior. There is no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. It requires discernment and wisdom; strategy and skill. That’s why it’s so important to understand what I call the Spectrum of Toxicity. I...

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Episode 23: Am I wounded or am I sinful?

By Alison Cook | October 6, 2022

Today on the podcast, we’re diving into this question I keep bumping up against. On one hand we go to church, and we’re told you’re sinful; you need to repent, you need to die to yourself. On the other hand, we go to therapy, and we’re told you’re wounded; you’ve had trauma. You need to...

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Episode 22: How to Build Trust with Yourself

By Alison Cook | September 29, 2022

On this week’s podcast we’re talking all about building trust with yourself. This *internal* work is so important to the work of setting healthy external boundaries. I share with you an example from my own life and walk you through a process of connecting more deeply to what’s actually happening inside of you. As you...

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Episode 21: Making and Keeping A Promise to Yourself

By Alison Cook | September 22, 2022

Today on The Best of You podcast, we’re starting a new series on Boundaries and the Bible. And we’re starting with what I call the Yes Side of No. So many of us struggle with setting external boundaries because we keep the focus on the other person. But the work of setting boundaries starts inside...

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Episode 20: Making Peace with Yourself (& Facing Your Fear of Disappointing Other People)

By Alison Cook | September 15, 2022

Sometimes living at peace with other people, means living at peace with disappointing them. It’s incredibly important to balance your responsibility to other people with a deep sense of responsibility to your God-given self. It’s not only good for you. It’s good for other people. Living at peace with yourself is a process of figuring...

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Episode 19: My Stroke, A Process of Healing, and How I Began to Write The Best of You

By Alison Cook | September 8, 2022

At the exact moment I began to bring The Best of You to life, I encountered a trauma that would literally knock me off my feet, forcing me to test everything I hoped to write about. Today is almost the 2-year anniversary of that trauma. It’s unbelievable to me that this book is coming out...

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Episode 18: Selfhood vs. Selfishness

By Alison Cook | September 1, 2022

This week on the podcast, we’re talking about selfhood. Many of us have been taught that “self” is bad. But there’s a big difference between selfhood and selfishness. Furthermore being selfless is not always the right choice. Reclaiming a healthy sense of self is not opposed to faith. In fact, learning to honor yourself goes...

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Episode 17: What is Church Hurt and How do I Heal?

By Alison Cook | August 25, 2022

Today’s podcast episode is all about church hurt. A church is a family-at its best it’s a place to learn about God, a place to heal, and a place to give & receive in community. But just like any family, when leadership turns toxic the results are devastating. You have so many questions for me...

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Episode 16: What are attachment styles and why does it matter?

By Alison Cook | August 18, 2022

Today’s podcast episode is another packed one all about attachment. Be sure to listen all the way through for some thoughts on how attachment wounds impact our human relationships and our experience of a loving God. Here’s what we discuss: Why I think we’re not just one attachment style What are 4 different attachment styles?...

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