Posts by Alison Cook

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Episode 31: Peace-Keeping, Anger Avoidance, and How to Start Using Your Voice

By Alison Cook | December 1, 2022

You want to keep the peace at all costs. The problem is sometimes anger is warranted. Sometimes conflict is needed. What do you do when everything in you does not want to be the one to speak up? On today’s episode, I am joined by my dear friend Rowena Day. This is a powerful conversation...

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Episode 30: Protecting What’s Good Without Denying What’s Hard at the Holidays

By Alison Cook | November 24, 2022

Today’s episode of The Best of You Podcast is in honor of the Thanksgiving holiday, and the holiday season in general. If you’re dealing with a mixture of emotions today, this episode is for you. Holidays are complicated, and in today’s episode, I walk you through how to honor what’s hard, even as you give...

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Episode 29: Perfectionism and Proving Your Worth: How to Stop Chasing Approval and Start Living the Life You Actually Want

By Alison Cook | November 17, 2022

OK, buckle up, today’s conversation on The Best of You podcast goes deep, and we both get really honest about own struggles. I could have talked with Mary for hours about how to get off the treadmill of perfecting and proving your worth-and start claiming the life you actually want. You do not want to...

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Episode 28: The Pain of Performing For Others and How to Claw Your Way Out with Toni Collier

By Alison Cook | November 10, 2022

On today’s episode of The Best of You podcast, I’m talking with the wonderful and wise Toni Collier who shares bravely about finding herself stuck in the performance trap, and how she clawed her way out. Toni’s capability & high capacity helped her survive, but she also wound up exhausted, broken, and numbing. As Toni...

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Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections

By Alison Cook | November 3, 2022

We’re kicking off a new series on The Best of You Podcast as we move into the last 2 months of the year. How do you shift from managing the perceptions of others to showing up more authentically? In today’s episode, I cover the 7 ways we tend to manage perceptions and why it doesn’t...

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Episode 26: Types of “No” Part 2—How to Say “No” to Toxicity, The Real Meaning of Turn the Other Check & How to Form a Boundaries Committee

By Alison Cook | October 27, 2022

This week on The Best of You podcast, we’re getting into how to say No to toxic behaviors-including practical strategies, scripts, and misconstrued bible passages. There’s no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. A strategy that might work in a healthy relationship won’t work with toxicity. It’s important to understand the...

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Episode 25: Types of No Part 1—How to Say “No” in Healthy Relationships

By Alison Cook | October 20, 2022

This week and next week on The Best of You podcast, we’re getting into 3 types of “No”-including practical strategies, and scripts, for how to say No in different situations. First up is how to say no in healthy relationships. This episode is for you if you struggle to set a boundary, state a preference,...

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Episode 24: Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, and a Note About Evil

By Alison Cook | October 13, 2022

Today on The Best of You podcast, we’re diving into how to discern toxic vs. healthy patterns of behavior. There is no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. It requires discernment and wisdom; strategy and skill. That’s why it’s so important to understand what I call the Spectrum of Toxicity. I...

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Episode 23: Am I wounded or am I sinful?

By Alison Cook | October 6, 2022

Today on the podcast, we’re diving into this question I keep bumping up against. On one hand we go to church, and we’re told you’re sinful; you need to repent, you need to die to yourself. On the other hand, we go to therapy, and we’re told you’re wounded; you’ve had trauma. You need to...

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Episode 22: How to Build Trust with Yourself

By Alison Cook | September 29, 2022

On this week’s podcast we’re talking all about building trust with yourself. This *internal* work is so important to the work of setting healthy external boundaries. I share with you an example from my own life and walk you through a process of connecting more deeply to what’s actually happening inside of you. As you...

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Episode 21: Making and Keeping A Promise to Yourself

By Alison Cook | September 22, 2022

Today on The Best of You podcast, we’re starting a new series on Boundaries and the Bible. And we’re starting with what I call the Yes Side of No. So many of us struggle with setting external boundaries because we keep the focus on the other person. But the work of setting boundaries starts inside...

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Episode 20: Making Peace with Yourself (& Facing Your Fear of Disappointing Other People)

By Alison Cook | September 15, 2022

Sometimes living at peace with other people, means living at peace with disappointing them. It’s incredibly important to balance your responsibility to other people with a deep sense of responsibility to your God-given self. It’s not only good for you. It’s good for other people. Living at peace with yourself is a process of figuring...

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