Posts by Alison Cook

What Is Self-Love And Should I Really Love Myself?

By Alison Cook | May 19, 2022

Do you shove yourself aside? Do you think it’s selfish to love yourself-or even wrong? Learn practical steps you can take toward improving one of your most important relationships, your relationship with YOU. In this episode, we’ll cover: My story of shoving myself aside What does self-love really mean? Can I love myself and love...

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The Best Of You Podcast: What Should I Know About Gaslighting?

By Alison Cook | May 11, 2022

You’ve heard the word gaslighting, but what does it really mean? In this episode we’ll discuss: What is gaslighting? What are some examples of it in real life? Why do people do this? What does the Bible have to say about gaslighting? The #1 question I get from people who are dealing with a gaslighter...

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The Best Of You Podcast: What Is Narcissism Really?

By Alison Cook | May 5, 2022

You’ve heard the word narcissist, but what does it really mean? In this episode we’ll discuss: What narcissism is- how it’s presented in the Bible and the criteria psychologists use to diagnose it The difference between labeling people vs. naming behaviors Different types of narcissism What it feels like if you’re in a narcissistic relationship...

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Spiritual Wounds and How to Heal

By Alison Cook | March 31, 2022

A spiritual wound is a type of wound that disrupts your relationship with God or your spiritual practices. Spiritual wounds typically occur when a parent, authority figure, or religious leader use the name of God for self-centered purposes or twist God’s word to cause harm. All childhood wounds cause you to question your worth. But...

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What are the Effects of Trauma?

By Alison Cook | March 24, 2022

When you hear the word trauma, you might assume that it only applies to extreme situations. But when understood correctly, trauma is a reality that touches more people than you might think. The effects of trauma are wide-reaching on the soul, body and on relationships. And I believe healing the effects of trauma is at...

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Calming Anxiety

By Alison Cook | March 10, 2022

Did you know that anxiety is part of your Internal Alert System? It’s often an unwanted visitor, but when you pay attention to its cues, and lead yourself well, you can learn to calm anxiety in your body and help it function as it should. To calm anxiety, you must understand that at its best...

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How to Reclaim Your Inner Alert System

By Alison Cook | March 3, 2022

Did you know that you have a built-in alert system inside your soul? Yep. God designed you with a sophisticated, state-of-the-art system to alert you to danger in your environment. It’s your nervous system, which impacts your emotions, your thoughts, and nearly every decision you make. This whole system works together to help you keep...

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Stuck Between Empathy and Loyalty

The Empathy Trap

By Alison Cook | February 24, 2022

Sometimes the world can feel like a mess. The cruelty, the hatred, the gaslighting from every direction. The hidden agendas and loud, screaming voices. If you’re empathetic you feel all of it. You anticipate the pain of the people around you. You understand the hurt behind those who are misbehaving, even when their actions are...

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Can a Boundary Become Unhealthy?

By Alison Cook | February 10, 2022

Vivian feels frustrated that her friend, Sue, constantly offers unsolicited advice about how she parents her children. However, she’s afraid of making Sue mad, so she doesn’t say anything. She tells herself it’s better to keep the peace in the relationship than risk offending her friend. John is fearful about trusting anyone and refuses to...

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The Most Important Choice You Make Each Day

By Alison Cook | January 27, 2022

Every single day, every single one of us faces both the good and the hard that we see in ourselves. We’re human. And, we have a choice about which of two voices we’ll listen to. The first voice is shame. Shame tells us that we’re “bad”, that we’re disgusting and not worthy. Shame can feel...

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Should I Become Less?

By Alison Cook | January 20, 2022

Have you heard the often-quoted verse: “He must become greater; I must become less” (John 3:30)? Maybe you have heard this verse as a call to humble yourself or make yourself small. You don’t want to exalt yourself in ways that are selfish or detrimental. So you might try to “become less” in any of...

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Will Setting Boundaries Make Me Cruel?

By Alison Cook | December 16, 2021

I hear this question often and it reveals a conundrum that many people of faith face when it comes to setting boundaries. Many of you feel that you have only two options when a boundary line has been crossed: a. Lash out and be perceived as cruel or selfish. b. Ignore the boundary foul and...

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